To: @mitch.riley1772 - Review this very old blog (Sept 2018) on the same issues you are having. My solution was to add a cheap TD-69 Delay timer. Same solution that @slim24h-turbo is suggesting. Currently, I have my delay timer set for 4 minutes. Re-read the whole blog/thread. There were numerous people responding and commenting.
If you open up your breaker panel to investigate, Take numerous pictures from every angle. Post them on this forum so other users can understand what you are describing. Also, pictures will help document your installation.